“She killed herself because she didn’t think she was beautiful.” In this day and age of the “bully” we have all been pressed to look into the consequences of our words and actions. But what if it is the things we aren’t saying and doing as much as what we are? We live in a world of assumptions with no one actually saying what they mean because they assume it’s obvious…it’s not. It’s important to tell people the good as well as the bad. When you only voice your opinions about the negative things, those are the things the person is going to hear, thus creating in them a sense of inadequacy. Not feeling loved in your own home can only validate the negativity thrown at a person in the outside world. A bully is only as effective as the response they receive. Whether with words or actions their goal is to belittle and appear superior. By instilling a sense of confidence in a person it limits the amount of ammunition a bully has. So, if you let someone know every time they mess up, let them know every time they do something good as well. There should never go a day when without you telling someone that you love them and are proud of them or that they make you happy. Nobody has to fish for criticism and nobody should have to fish for compliments. No one, no matter their age or status, should feel unloved or unworthy of the love of another. Growing up is hard to do, especially when you think no one loves you.
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